WebKittyn Warbles

Sunday, March 26, 2006

A Letter to a Few People

Dear Bitter Souls,

Never in my meager life did I ever expect being nice would become something to ridicule. I know the world is a tough place, I knew there would always be something that could be found to criticise if one was looking but I never thought it would be because I am nice.

So allow this missive to serve as my overall reply to anyone who feels the need or want to mock or belittle me because I am a nice person.

I can make it really easy for all of us. If my being nice bothers you then don't talk to me. Don't deal with me, don't listen to me, don't talk to me. It's a big world, there are plenty of people to go around. You mistake link whore with attention whore. I love the links, I have never loved attention.

Yes, I am nice. I was the one from my earliest day who would jump in any time I saw someone getting picked on in school. I was the one who was friends with everyone, went to all the parties and was equally at ease eating lunch with the jocks as with the nerds. I kept a 4.0 and got along with the teachers as well as the kids.

I guess my parents did something right with me, I grew up looking for what was inside people and I developed a liking for doing things for people that made them happy.

I look around me and I see so much negativity in the word. So many people who aren't happy and so much bad juju in every direction. I harbor no illusions that my being nice is going to fix the world but it's my little part that I can do every day. I can choose not to look for and seek out the negative in people or situations and I can choose to comment on these things and point them out. It's alright with me if you choose to do the opposite, you don't hear me mocking your choice to never see anything good in anything.

At least I'm real. At least I don't have to turn chameleon and try to fit in. At least I don't pander for acceptance and compromise and try like Hell to act like something I'm not and then complain that no one likes me.

I'm nice. Deal with it or don't deal with me.

I'm confident in who I am, I've always been confident with who I am. I have no need to prove myself to anyone other than myself (and my family) and I'm happy when I can step back into the Spock role to enhance someone else's Kirk role. I'm real. I'm me. I'm nice.

I like making people smile. Not a fake smile because I cracked a joke or said something mean about someone else, a real smile from the gut. I'm not one of those whogloms anything out of the suffering of others or the mocking of others.

Yes, there really are people in this screwed up world who are nice. Who wouldn't think twice to stop and help a stranger or give the shirt off their back or sit up all night listening to a friend in need or just to point out the good things people say and do. I'm sorry this disturbs you so, I'm sorry you feel a need to use me for your fodder, I'm sorry you speak of being nice as though it was a bad thing. I'm sorry I have a strong sense of who I am and I'm sorry I don't play chameleon to be one of the pack.

Here's a news flash: I'm nice. Surprised? It's not an act, it's not a facade, it's not a persona. This is me. I'll miss you if you go but I have more than enough people filling up my life.

I could mock you, I could go for hours and how you try so hard to be what you're not. I could smirk at the way you derive so much pleasure from seeing others in bad spots. I could speculate at your own sense of self worth with all your negativity singing. Instead, I understand you for what you are and I wish you nothing but good in life but thiskittyn is tired of being made to feel the freak because she's genuinely nice. I like me. Can you say the same about yourself?

Leave me alone, go find another target. It's not going to change me, it's not going to make me become like you and it only makes you look small.

To the others in the world who strive to be kind and genuinely enjoy themselves and those around them, I say keep the faith. Stay strong and stay true and never ever become the chameleon.

This is who and what I am. I am nice. I am kind. I am not a doormat. Sometimes people blur the lines of separation.

Thus ends this letter.

Warbled by WebKittyn at 07:48 pm in

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(9) Comments • (2) Trackbacks • Permalink

Good for you.I like you alot. You are a true and staedy friend.
I look foward to your comments on my blog. I love how you make everyone feel apart of you show.
Your blog makes me laugh and cry.Always stay true to the real WebKittyn. And boo to the nay-sayers!

on 03/26 at 09:48 PM
I know another nice lady on a different blogging site who very often
has people walking all over her because she is also a nice person. Its
sad that niceness has become a mockable rarity.

YummY! on 03/26 at 10:10 PM
It is sad that people find anyone who is morally ‘better’ in some sense a person to mock, instead of a person to look up too. I wish I could be as nice and kind as you are, WK. I remember when you helped me with some blog problems, way back when my RP blogs were active. No questions asked, someone needed help and you gave it.
Thats the person you are, good on you for not letting anyone change that.

Seraphim on 03/27 at 07:43 AM
Ya know, I don’t get people sometimes, but other times I come to realizations. I never knew that people could be jealous of someone who is nice.

I’ve known you for a long, long time Kittyn, and you have your moments of bitchiness (*gasps* I said it!), but you really are a nice person.

Unfortunately, some people see it as a weakness, or some as a threat maybe. Something they need to attack I think.

I know I’m probably way too layed back about things, but… those are the people I just ignore. They’ll get theirs in the end.

*shifty looks* Hey, sometimes the unlikeliest of people ends up being and agent of Karma.

Doggeh

Coyote on 03/27 at 12:52 PM
Who cares what other people think? Everyone is a critic. People tend to make assumptions based loosely off of a first impression or what they “heard” I don’t need to tell you all this I am sure, but it’s always good to hear it from someone other than yourself. And besides, you tend to make me smile everyday which is no small feat, trust me. So for what its worth, thanks for making a soldier’s day(s) Take care WebKittyn
Brian

on 03/27 at 03:18 PM
Way to go! I wish there were more people in the world like you, me
included. I use to be nice, but I find myself not being as nice
as I’d like to be. Maybe I need to rethink this about me.

Enough about me. I’m thankful I found your blog and it’s wonderful
to know there are real people who really care. Not the fake people
who are one way one minute and another the next.

Stay who you are. Me....I’ll be back. I need to be around
more people like you!

Have a good day!

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