Monday, April 24, 2006

It’s Called a Favour

Or favor, pick your preferred spelling.

I asked a friend yesterday to do the Thunderdome thing. Not to vote for me, to go look at both blogs, register on the forums and give an opinion (which could have gone either way). I said please, it was nothing more than a request for a favour from a friend.

What did I get? A lot of hooey, that's what I got. If my mood gets better I'll think about it. I hate signing up for forums. I'll consider it.

Excuse me? What the.. When did doing a simple favour for a friend have to decide on someone else's mood? Last I checked I wasn't the cause of the bad mood so why spread your poison to me? We're talking about maybe a half hour at the most if time is given to the other blog and reading the forums but if not, we're talking 10 minutes. And this is too much effort and depends on the person's mood?

I didn't say anything at the time but yah, it bothered me. I don't ask people for much, an occasional vote here and there but I'm not one to impose on people and to hear that my favour depends on their mood pissed me off a bit. That's not how friendship works, it's not about whether or not you're in the mood to do something small for a friend. I guess I was brought up that if you can do something for a friend when they ask, you do it. It causes no pain, it's not illegal and it makes a friend happy. That should count more than some pissy mood that's gone on long enough already and has nothing to do with the friend who asked.

Maybe I'll start doing that too. Ok people, I can't open the MUD today, I'm not in a good mood. No blogs of roleplay today, I'm not in a good mood. No need to be nice to my friends, I'm not in a good mood.

Bleh. This is why I hate asking people for anything.

1. I totally understand where you’re coming from here, WK. Not the same situation, my family tends to be the stress causer/ mood changers for me, but I definitely understand where you’re saying. The problem I usually run into this if someone asks something of me I try my hardest to go above and beyond for them because I care and it feels good to know I did something nice.  When it’s not reciprocated it hits home that I can’t hold other people up to the same standards I keep for myself. Just be happy in knowing that you’re a good person for being caring when you are and take satisfaction in that. Unfortunately letting it go for my own good when I’m hurt by this is usually the hardest thing, but believe me, when you do let it go, you feel so much better. That kind of thing takes too much energy and there are a ton of other people that would fall all over themselves to do something for you, just look at the forums at Chaos Wastes!

   Hey, when does the verdict come in? I thought we only had to endure a week of torture. 

   Bunny  on  04/24  at  11:39 AM

2. You can ask me for anything.

   And I promise, I’ll never give you a bunch of shit like that.

   I’ll probably say yes.  But if the answer is no.  I’ll just say no.  No bullshit, just “No, I’m sorry I can’t.”

   Maybe that’s just as bad, but I tend to think that “No” is better than “I’ll think about it.”

   jeckles  on  04/24  at  04:38 PM

3. Wow. Thats really quite shitty; and quite a sad thing to hear, in one respect. But from what I can tell from look at the forums when I voted, you got a lot of votes. People still love ya WK… its never a problem to support you when asked, even when not asked. =)

   Seraphim  on  04/24  at  04:45 PM
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