WebKittyn Warbles
Sunday, July 03, 2005
Now That’s Amore
Current Tunage: Information Society, "Walking Away"
Friend of mine got me on the mud this morning, before the usual cynical side of me woke up. He had come to tell me he was in love. I got out my airline barfbag and we got to talking.
After about an hour or so I offically decided he was right. He was in love and he's got it baaaaaad. And it's all good. He hasn't met his yet but that's purely a matter of their geography, he's still in love.
The way he spoke of this woman was sad and touching. All men should take a hint from this guy, it made me think. He loves her. He needs her. He longs to be with her and he yearns for her touch. Hearing him verbalise his emotions stirred just the tiniest twinge in me. Who wouldn't want to be cared about so deeply, so truly, so verbally.
Along with not knowing a good thing until she leaves, I'm afraid you male types have to work on your communications skills. If a woman wants to be with a silent guy who won't tell her what she means to him she'll go date a statue. We want to know. Some of us need to know.
An offering of reasons
We put them all away
A covering of treasons
That one by one we let slip away
A solitary dancer
So lost upon her stage
I have seen you on the edge of dawn
Felt you there before you were born
Balanced your dreams upon the edge of thorns
But I don't think about you anymore
Sorry, that snuck in. Reaffirmed my faith in romance. My idea of romance. That burning, insanity-causing emotion. Me, I'm tired of going for less than that. No more accepting because it's there. Hell with that. If love is still alive and kicking in this world then damn skippy I'll settle for nothing less.
To be wanted, to be longed for, to be wanted so damn bad it actually hurts. To share the level with another human being who can verbalise the emotions. Of course it's not easy, what the hell in life that's worth anything IS easy? There has to be fear, there has to be uncertainty, there has to be unknowing.. But just because they're there doesn't mean give in to them.
I can't say how many friends of mine and myself as well have walked away from otherwise wonderful men because they simply will not share emotions. Bonding with what is there because it's there or because they're lonely and calling it love. And then they lose the one they secretly burned for and now it's nothing. Lots of nothing.
It's better to be single with no attachments than it is to settle for anything less than what my friend was talking about. I say this to womankind, with a few exceptions I could think of we are exotic and mysterious and sensual creatures, for any man to think we would give of ourselves to them while they have no need to offer emotions, I say shove it. Not this kittyn.
If love was simple there wouldn't be millions of songs about it. If love wasn't worth the angst there wouldn't be millions of songs about it. If love wasn't entirely worth it, there wouldn't be millions of people willing to trade their very souls for a taste of it.
In my not too distant past, I walked out of something early on because it came with no emotion. I tried and then I cried but it was necessary. I knew the emotions were there, that was the caveat. I knew they were there but there was no ability to share, to tell me what I meant to him, what I was, what the thought of me was. No, it wasn't enough just knowing how he felt. I told him, I begged and pleaded but nothing came. So I walked.
Take a lesson, menfolk. Take a lesson from my friend today and what I say here. Stop being stubborn, walk outside the circle of fear and don't let her get away because of it. Intensity makes life exciting and we want to know.
Taking things for granted resulting in lack of communication:
Relationship killer par excellence.
And that will be the Warbling Kittyn's love advice for the day. More later.
As for me, I don't settle anymore. I remain a cynic and a tad bitter but when I see things like this today from my friend, it gives me hope. Mazel tov, luv. May it all be rainbows and skittles for you!
SKITTLES!
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I concur with this bit of wisdom wholeheartedly. I myself had to learn this myself the hard way, which is why I walk the road of direct and free emotional openness. Anticipation, trepidation and fear are purely evil, you can head trip yourself into a million avenues that may never even happen… agonizing over that which may all be met with equal enthusiasm from another person. You never know until you ask, I guess is what I am saying. What you don’t know, may not hurt you, but it can drive you bonkers.
on 07/04 at 12:14 AM
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