WebKittyn Warbles
Sunday, July 10, 2005
The Love Kittyn is In
So it seems Cupid isn't being kind to MUDders these days. I've heard a whole lot of woe lately over love and relationships. While I was talking to a sad friend the other night, he asked me what my 'ideal man' is. Not a celebrity or fantasy figure, my 'ideal man' for my life as it is now.
First I strongly urged him not to base his relationships off anything I say, I'm a bad one to follow in that area but I promised I would think it over and post it here.
(list continues inside) I don't believe in 'ideal,' I don't think I would want 'ideal' even if it does exist. But I think if I could write the script just the way I wanted it, it would go something like this..
He would .....
*know what a MUD is
*not have to like golf but understand my love of it and let me watch in peace.
*be politically and current event aware
*value his alone time as much as I value mine but never forget to let me know how much I'm missed during alone time.
*be sexually open minded to strange things like skittles.
*like to read and be willing to share in the books I love so dearly, someone who would grab the Vachss or the Connelly off the shelf and read it.
*make it a point to read my LJ or blog every time it was updated purely because he wanted to.
*not have to like the same music as I do but be willing to listen to it with an open mind as I would to his.
*understand that I get lost in my blogs and domains and mud crap and not take it personally if I seem distant.
*write long random emails or snail mails because as wonderful as conversation is, there is power in the written word.
*be laid back in lifestyle. I'm never going to be a BMW driving yuppie with 2.5 kids and I don't want to be.
*eat meat. no offense to the vegans but it would be far too tempting to stick some meat in that lasagna.
*be able to speak of his feelings for me, with me. I am an emotional person, my life runs on emotions. If he can't tell me what I am to him it won't last long.
*have deep and intense feelings. I want to be the first thing on his mind in the morning, the last thing on his mind at night and I want to haunt his mind all day. Anything that isn't intense isn't worth it.
*always make me feel wanted and special. This isn't just me, this should be for all women. If she is giving you a piece of her heart then dammit, you make sure she knows how lucky you feel to receive it.
*be honest, the truth always comes out anyway.
*be jealous but not nutty. Women are special, if yours is someone others find appealing let her know it bothers you. Don't make a scene if she doesn't give you reason but it's nice to know the feelings are there.
*value the mind and spirit as much as the body but definitely want strongly for the body.
*like cats
*be willing to do the driving, I like being the passenger.
*accept a submissive state without being a wimp. I'm a strong minded dominant type, I couldn't handle a male of the same mindset. But who wants a sniveling wimp.. A sexual submissive but a mental/emotional equal perhaps, I'm not sure I'm wording this one right.
Not too long ago someone who claimed to care deeply for me withdrew that claim and basically told me I wasn't worth the walk through the fire, I wasn't worth the burns. That statement has provoked much thought from me since it was uttered. Not just in terms of me, I've applied it to my past relationships, present dealings and those of the people I know. I don't know if I'm worth the firewalk or not, I can't say either way. I'd like to think I am but wouldn't we all. I do think though that sometimes what ends the best starts the worst and sometimes it takes a stroll through the fires to find what lies beyond.
I think what I would say to my sad friend now would be to have faith in yourself. As lucky as you think you are for having her, she is equally as lucky to have you. It doesn't make you an egotist to set some (realistic) standards and want to keep to them. Settling or selling yourself short by finding ways to make her 'better' than you is wrong, you owe yourself more.
Alright, it's 4:45 AM and the Love Kittyn is tired. My cat is staring at me with that 'let's snoogle' look and it's starting to get light outside. I hope this was of some use to you, my friend and I wish for you a brighter tomorrow and a healed heart.
The Love Kittyn is out
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"As lucky as you think you are for
having her, she is equally as lucky to have you.”
Amen to that!Good luck Kali’s friend…
Loky on 07/10 at 08:23 AM
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