WebKittyn Warbles

My best friend (aka the Gotard) has said more than a few times that I'm not normal in the social sense. Perhaps he is right and now that I'm finally sitting down to purge my head of all the thoughts that have been in it lately, I can see where he would get that from. *snickers*

I want to reach into my TV screen and strangle that smiling man from EHarmony and all his happy couples! Every time I see him start to smile on the commercial I dive for the remote. This man and his commercials make me want to un and become a monk somewhere...

Can we fit any more ridiculous buzz phrases into one friggin' commercial?? "Love of your life," "significant other," "I felt like I've known him forever..." Jesus H Christ on melba toast with marmalade, give it a rest.....

Now, I'm not knocking either love or EHarmony. I know a few people who have connected through online dating services and they are very happy and I'm happy to see them happy. In the age of the internet why the hell not use it as a tool to meet people? These are all adults here, adults capable of making their own choices and not walking into the traps that kids on the net face. The bar scene, the work scene, these are all limited in their opportunities. Why should a person miss out on a good match just because said match lives 300 miles away? I think this is one of the phenoms of the internet that will only continue to grow.

And I'm not knocking love either. I know how powerful love can be. I believe in love, I celebrate love, I am happy when I see people I know in love. But. Yes, there's always a but.

But these commercials are TERRIBLE, like finding the 'love of your life' is all you need to be happy. I've always had problems with people who need love. People who can't be happy without a romantic interest in their world. I've known so many people who have jumped from relationship to relationship and have spent little to no time alone and it baffles me. Why does it take someone else's presence in life to make their own life seem valid?

There's a definite reverse stigma attached to people who genuinely do not seek love. Yes Virginia, there are people who walk this earth and do not wish to find the 'love of their life' and are genuinely content with close friends and their own company. Yet what do I usually hear when one of these people is mentioned? Oh, he/she is just lonely, wait till he/she meets someone. Excuse me?

I've never actively sought out or needed romantic love. I've had it, received it, felt/feel it, lived it and I don't regret a minute of any of it but it's never been something I felt I need/needed to be happy or complete or alive. I don't want to be anyone's 'significant other,' anyone who uses that term to describe me will be met with a cold stare and derisive snort. I will never need anyone so bad that I feel my life is incomplete without them, this I know.

It starts young, I hear mudders say wistfully "if only I had a girlfriend I would be happy" and that makes me sad. Be happy for who you are, be happy for what you are, be happy for the potential that lives inside you and the chances you have for a fulfilling and successful life. Find happiness in what you have at the present and when it's time, love will find its way to you. Seek it out desperately and it becomes the snipe and the seeker the doomed hunter.

As I write this I think it should go in the relationships section but it really did start as a bitch. And here's Mr. EHarmony now on my tv and his happy smiling customers now with the 'love of their life.' GAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH.

More on the WebKittyn's philosophies later, it's been way too long and my mind is on overflow.